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Post by Emperor AAdmin on Apr 19, 2011 13:51:06 GMT -5
I have been analyzing this topic for some time and the summarized conclusions I have come up with are following. There are two types of personalities and these are more logic driven male (alpha male and alpha females, small minority) and more emotion driven female personalities (everything else which is massive majority).
Alpha male and macho males are fully separate.
Alpha male is confident yet not stubborn thus adaptable to ideas deemed more beneficial. Imposes his dominance (although does not necessarily seek it) by sheer presence. That is done without force though wisdom that comes with age and or extensive experience (or even via naturally enhanced emotional intelligence). Also done with charisma that depicts his enhanced emotional intelligence. Able to have own emotions under control and leashed (although will obviously display them only towards loved ones and people close to him) versus being a constant prisoner of his own emotions which is the case with macho male. Thus as a default should be also healthiest of all types due to drastically reduced stress. It is most in control cause emotion do not get in the way of analysis. Immune from either praise or criticism as their emotions are shielded by their logic and ego is mainly neutralized (and thus self-contained personality) . Very tiny percentage of males actually ever reach this stage or have the capacity to reach it. Natural leaders within any given society. Use language to express ideas mainly. Alpha males and alpha females (which if not carrying a lot of emotional baggage) will seek out of course each other (each will propel the other in the journey of life). Balkans seems to exhibit probably the most capacity for development of alpha types.
Macho male is male dominated by ones feelings. Insecure and always seeking attention and domination by intimidation and force (since lacks emotional intelligence to do this). Very fragile ego that can not take criticism. Usually stubborn by nature which only magnifies the hold which their emotions hold over them. Certainly a female personality. Excess of male hormones obviously and deeper voices. Use language to express ideas and emotions although not too talkative. Direct by nature. Macho male might have the capacity to become alpha male if he learns how to modify oneself and improve upon mistakes. Thus this is directly correlated to ability to overcome being stubborn. Association with African racial regions and their de-pigmented extensions (Balkans for example).
Betta and Gamma males and females are certainly under female personality domain and usually very subordinate, passive and insecure. Betta and gamma males will easily be dominated by alpha males and alpha females. Excess of female hormones and higher voices. Use language to mainly express emotions and talkative. Indirect by nature. Association with Asian racial regions and their de-pigmented extensions (eastern Europe for example).
Alpha Male Movie Scenes by David DeAngelo - Part 1
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Post by Emperor AAdmin on Apr 19, 2011 13:51:20 GMT -5
Info taken from various sites and summarized as it relates to being alpha and dating Pre-Approach -Wrong approach = Desperation / Despair / Anger / Lust -Right approach = Lets go have some fun and find out about her, Screening orientation (turns in your favor), Meaning gives determination (drop pressure), PLS (Playful, Learning, Screening), One women = one vote , worse case scenario = nothing will happen -Noticing things about her -Be in a Right state of mind (decrease lust desire, show attention, have relaxed physical awareness) -She is focused on you, rigid unchanged posture, eye to eye scanning, dilated pupils, welcome trans words (example chemistry, etc vague words) with full honors, look for self anchors, -Equanimity (neutralize emotions, ignore them) -Stealth Charisma (approach without showing fear or hesitation brings admiration)
Approach Methods Method 1: Observation (1) Question (2) Comment (3) (Ex. 1 = You have an athlete written all over you ; 2 = What is your sport? ; 3 = Well, you carry yourself with discipline & elegance. My name is ) Method 2: Blurt out (and sound sincere)(ex. 'breathtaking' / 'beautiful'= beauteous, mesmeric (=mesmerizing), enthralling (=captivating) / 'Beauty'= Belle, pulchritude; Combine method 2 with implied compliment (*IC) Method 3: Direct approach (viewed as breathtaking and ballsy)(*IC) Method 4: Put-On (“Most fun”)(“tests sense of humor”)(unique)(?) Implied compliment (*IC)(slips past resistance)(triples pick up success) Ex: It is just that I really like women with class and style so I had to say hello. My name is …. Hold hand seconds longer then usual during initial handshaking (4 a response)(Dominance test) “Hi....It is just that I noticed you here and I realized... that if I did not say something..I would never get to find out how you are. My name is ….” “Forgive me for interrupting...I can see that you are working/reading/eating/etc but you are just so ...(pause)...absolutely...(pause)...breathtaking. I had to say 'hi' for a minute before I go on with the rest of my day. My name is ...”
Abundance versus Scarcity View beautiful women as abundant and portray yourself as scarce. Do not chase one girl in particular. Don't let the girl know that you are into her. She should feel lucky that she have met a guy like you who is charming, funny, cool, sophisticated and experienced. Play hard to get. You are also the guy who doesn't play the game by the traditional rules. You don't pursue the woman. You don't give the woman all of your time and attention. You don't buy her gifts, at least not until after you have had sex with her. Never spend more then 30 dollars on a date. You got stuff to do, places to go and people to see. They will compete harder to get you.
Confidence Tip and Understanding Women Understand what woman needs on a core, fundamental level. (Not want, NEED) . Women are programmed to despise weak men. Reason..they make them feel uncomfortable and unsafe. Show backbone otherwise face ever increasing demands from a woman if she views you as a wuss (= weak man that acts like a p**y). Wuss upsets her more and more where she makes ever increasing demands because she is subconsciously seeing an alpha male response. When she goes through the drama period she needs an alpha man who will be firm and calm her down. Emotional strength that alpha man has is needed by a woman. Master your emotions ('soldier'). She needs a man that makes her feel comfortable with being a woman and playing her natural role as a woman.
Being an Alpha and Picking them up Let her talk and share. Encourage her and embrace details. Learn how to ask her wright questions, phrase them. Eliminate usual small talk and eliminate usual interview questions. Mention things you are passionate and ambitious about. Get her to share hers, to reveal her goals and dreams and encourage her and and be supportive. Do not dwell about the present and talk about the future possibilities. Show ambition and passion ('show life within you') to impress her and make her start thinking “It would be cool to be part of his life”. Maintain sense of mystery in the initial conversation where it is best to leave questions unanswered or not answered fully. Make her learn more about you. Tease her along.
Working in a restaurant I work in a restaurant industry. Right now I am learning all I can about the business because few years down the line I am planning to open my own place. How about you? I get a sense that you are an ambitious person. Is there a goal you are working towards now? (Talk about passion and ambition and not what you are doing at the moment. Most people are not happy with their present job. 'Daydream'.)
No Job Right now I am checking out some really cool business opportunities. I love staying busy. I usually have 2-3 things going on at any time. What about you? I mean, how do you spend your time when you are not working? (Do not answer directly answers but spin them)
Successful Businessman (NOOO!......I have a successful business and I am making a lot of money. ….NOOO!) Just allude to it and maintain some mystery. I have bigger things on the horizon (that she can be a part of). CORRECT: Lets say I am very good at what I do and that I am well compensated for it. I am learning so much now that I am going to launch my own business soon. Have you ever thought of launching your own business and what would it be? (Any negative can be spun into a positive and any positive can be propelled even bigger in her eyes).
Being an Alpha and 'Closing' Forget about wining and dining a woman and trying to impress her by spending money on her. No restaurants and no movies (last one brings no intimacy). Avoid traditional courting scenes which are traditional and not spontaneous. Meet her for coffee, cool lounge or bar, Do date time activities where you walk a lot like outdoor art exhibition, festival, fair, park etc. Repeat same date over and over again. Meet at your place 1st and then drive to the date location. Invite her inside for a minute after saying that you have forgot something in your apartment. Go to the other room and have her become familiarized with your environment. If you know that closing her is not an option then keep the date brief, 1 to 2 hours max. It is her chance to impress you so having this escape patch is so important. If you like her but bringing her home is not an option be the one to cut the date short. Create the sense that your time is precious and limited (women respect that). You do not want her to get bored and restless (= She: “Well, I gotta go. I got stuff to do tomorrow”). Respond by saying something along the lines of “I got a huge day tomorrow. I gotta get up early. We will do this again soon.” End the date on the high note and plan on closing the deal next time. Always be punctual and, therefore, respect their time. Dress appropriately and remember that it is always better to slightly over dress then to be under dressed. Let her do most of the talking. Ask questions that prompt her to open up and share with you. Maintain the attitude that this is her chance to impress you and vice versa or not the other way around. It is better to be a little bit vague, playful and mysterious and through the question back at her. Cultivate a sense of mystery about you. Don't tell your life story within the 1st 30 minutes of talking to her. The more details she shares about her to you and the more you seem to appreciate hearing them the more it seems to her like a sense a chemistry between you is building up. This elevated you in her eyes beyond you being seen as just another average guy. An average guy views every 1st date as auditioning to be her boyfriend and feel the need to sell himself to her by talking himself up. You don't play that game. Better to be playful, to joke around and to be flirtatious.
PS: I will add guidance from ancient philosophers for a male to be mid/late 30s and girl say around 10 years younger or more for anything serious!
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Post by gjakova on Apr 19, 2011 17:05:39 GMT -5
i know plenty of balkanites(mostly albanians)that are alpha malesn,girls in the west love us balkanites they say no i want to be the alpha but they know they like us to be in charge.i know a belgian girl(wich i think is an alpha female)and believe i can't stand her like many other people bcs she thinks she's the best.i personnally think balkan girls are the best aside their beauty bcs the ones i know are very down to earth and i can have great conversations with them and they usually aren't spoilt like the belgian girls.Balkan girls tend to care more about us guys and help us with things.But belgian(like probably most Wgirls)are to feministic for me bcs they take that stuff too serious don't take me wrong i support all rights for all kind of people.in the end Wgirls are good for fun but by my opinion not very good wife material(AGAIN IT'S JUST MY OPINION,EVERYONE THINKS DIFFERENT I RESPECT THAT AND EXPECT NEUTRALE RESPECT).the end
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Post by Emperor AAdmin on Apr 19, 2011 22:14:18 GMT -5
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Post by Emperor AAdmin on May 6, 2011 22:20:10 GMT -5
6 Signs You're Dating An Alpha Female
She's on top of her dating game. She is obstinate, conceited and doesn't make it easy for you to pick her up. She gives you a run for your money and makes you work overtime on her, so to speak. But all this only makes her more appealing to you. She is, in other words, the quintessential "alpha female."
The alpha female has an uncanny ability to make men chase her. Her talent is very distinct from that of the "alpha male," a man whose aptitude for chasing women is finely tuned. But the alpha female's talents are special, and consequently, chasing her might be your biggest dating challenge yet.
So how can you tell if she's an alpha female? Below are six dead giveaways along with strategies to deal with her sneaky alpha tactics. In addition to the tips below, there is only one more thing you need to remember when pursuing a woman who knows her way around the dating game: Keep your cool. An alpha female can smell fear.
1. She acts unimpressed by your romantic gestures
An alpha female is used to men chasing her, so don't be surprised if clich gifts like flowers and chocolate don't impress her. Remember this: Her expectations are higher than most women's, so you will have to be a little more original to get her attention.
How to counteract it: Try writing her a personalized letter and leaving it on her windshield, for example. Or make her lunch and bring it to her at work. Whatever it is, be different.
If she still acts unimpressed, do continue to make kind gestures, but don't go overboard. This type of woman is used to men going crazy for her, and you will stand out more if you can keep your cool.
2. She Continues To Date Other Men
Clearly, she doesn't want to commit. The alpha woman always has several men on the go and likes to keep her options open.
How to counteract it: The only way to deal with her wandering eyes is to do the same. In other words, fight fire with fire and continue to date other women until you discuss otherwise.
How to handle her if she never calls you back, always insists on paying her share, is demanding, and more..
3. She's Hard To Reach
The alpha female is a busy woman, or at least she is very talented at making you believe that. She likes to have you at her beck and call and wants you to work around her schedule.
How to counteract it: Don't become the last-minute, just-in-case guy -- that won't earn you any respect in the long term. Make sure she realizes that you have your own commitments by not working entirely around her schedule. Do continue to pursue her if you think you have a shot, but be casual when you call. And definitely don't call more than twice before she calls you back.
4. She insists on paying her share of the bill
If she always insists on going Dutch, she might be pulling one of her fancy alpha tricks. Why? Because if you never treat her, she'll never owe you anything. Nada.
How to counteract it: Continue to offer to pay on dates, but if she seems adamant about paying her share, don't insist. If you want to avoid the whole awkward bill-splitting moment, tell her you'll take her to your "secret spot" and bring along a picnic to surprise her.
5. She Is Demanding
She continuously asks you for favors and you are eager to do them for her. Sound familiar? The alpha female is used to having men pursue her and give in to her every whim. But as tempting as it might be to jump every time she tells you to, do not allow yourself to become her puppy dog.
How to counteract it: Keep your dignity and do only what you feel is within reason. You will earn yourself far more respect in the long run if you don't jump through all the hoops she sets out for you.
6. She Is Sarcastic And Condescending To You
If she constantly talks down to you and makes rude or mocking remarks, you need to defend your honor and fight back with equally witty comments. You never know what the alpha female might say, so you always have to be "on" and ready for verbal combat.
How to counteract it: Use a negative hit only when absolutely necessary (something mildly but not overly insulting). This will throw her off balance and threaten her feelings of control. However, if your exchanges are consistently negative and disrespectful, you're probably better off moving on; you shouldn't have to put up with her abuse.
Become The Alpha Male
Make one important distinction clear in your mind: An alpha female might not call you back very often and she may date other men, but she will show you strong, intermittent signs that she is interested to encourage you to continue pursuing her. Do not mix this up with a woman who is showing few or no signs that she's interested. In other words, know when to stop trying and walk away. www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/137_dating_girl.html
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Post by Emperor AAdmin on May 6, 2011 22:42:57 GMT -5
Alpha Male Vs Beta Male August 11, 2010 by Chateau
There have been photos of alpha males and beta males here at the Chateau before, but never has there been a photo of the two species of man so starkly contrasted in the same photo. And an aesthetically pleasing photo, at that.
How do we know that alpha male and beta male aren’t socially constructed concepts? Because every single one of my readers, except for the disingenuous liars, intuitively knew exactly which man was which without having it spelled out. You looked at this photo and you knew which man was in control of his relationship and his girlfriend’s fidelity, and which man was on the precipice of a breakup wondering why the sex has stopped.
The photographer won $80,000 for this first place photo, and for good reason. It says so much.
But the important things it says are probably not what the judges or the arts community thinks it says. For that, we must delve deeper, to the hulking monstrous id clawing at the cellar door. Like the dream levels in Inception, the ultimate truth is locked in a vault at the center of the subconscious.
Examine the men’s body language. The beta leans into his girl; the alpha stands athwart PDA, yelling Stop. The beta rests his plush noggin on his girlfriend’s shoulder; the alpha holds his head high. The beta’s torso is diminutively curled inward; the alpha’s chest is thrust outward. The beta’s shoulders slump; the alpha’s shoulders square up. The beta’s spine is bent; the alpha’s spine is straight. The beta’s legs are closed; the alpha’s legs are splayed. The beta’s hands are groping his girlfriend for reassurance; the alpha’s hands are clasped away from his girlfriend. The beta is Mr. Sleepyhead; the alpha is calmly alert.
Now examine the body language of the girls. The alpha’s girlfriend leans into him. Her eyes are either closed or heavily lidded with contentment. Her left breast presses into his back and her left arm wraps around him. Her chin rests lovingly on his shoulder. She is ensconced in the cocoon of his masculinity, a mere branch dangling languidly from his oaken composure. She wants to merge with him.
In contrast, the beta’s girlfriend leans away from him, her head turned toward more interesting subjects, like the view out the windows. Her breasts point away from him, in directions unknown but undoubtedly exciting. Her entire body is shifted away from his cuddly meanderings. She grips the coffee cup like a lifeline. Her face betrays a hint of annoyance, or perhaps wistfulness. Wistful for what? A longing for renewed passion? She is playing the role of the oak tree, and she resents it. She wants to chop off his branch and merge with the outside world.
The two couples are mirror images of each other.
Alpha body language — aka high status nonverbal signaling — is absolutely critical to any successful seduction, from pickup to relationship management. Women mentally register the gears and pulleys of our body mechanics before they hear our words, and a misstep there means our words will fall on deaf ears. The good news is that alpha body language can be learned and applied to increase your success rate with women.
While the alpha male in the above photo is more conventionally masculine looking than the beta male, if the beta was sitting like the alpha, mimicking his demeanor, he would suddenly look more masculine to the viewer. And his girlfriend would look less like she was thinking about fucking the guy she met in the coffee shop that morning.
(photo link courtesy of Rufus) roissy.wordpress.com/2010/08/11/alpha-male-vs-beta-male/
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Post by Anittas on May 20, 2011 18:46:33 GMT -5
They say a photo is worth a thousand words, but I don't think a thousand words could describe what a man really is. Maybe the guy was having a hangover and his girlfriend was annoyed with him. Maybe he lost a big bet on football and was trying to play around by acting submissive to his girlfriend--and she got annoyed by his act. Maybe he worked 64-hours straight and could barely stand anymore.
In the other photo, I don't see the woman pressing her left breast into his back. Look at the photo again. If she was pressing her breast, it would be into his arm. However, she doesn't seem to be pressing at all. When it comes to the other couple, I do see the girl touching his leg. How come the author of this junk article forgot to mention that when he went so deep into the meaning of their bodylanguage?
And do we really know for sure that the other guy really is an Alpha Male and doesn't just appears so? If someone can act like an Alpha Male, can an Alpha Male not act as a Betaman?
Who is this Chateau and what are his qualifications for making such confident psychological observations? And last, but not least, what's an old fatty doing on a pervert site like that one? So many questions, so few answers...
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