Post by Emperor AAdmin on Feb 27, 2021 19:21:15 GMT -5
SERBIAN MENTALITY INSIGHTS #1 -AGGRESSIVENESS VS. peacefulness
Belgrade Beat
11K subscribers
Serbia is a safe place to live with great people..... Let's dive deeper in the difference
between how western countries and Serbia deal with emotions.
Comments:
Daniel
5 months ago
This is the best analysis of Serbian culture I have ever heard from a non-Serbian person!
You nailed it when you said, "Serbian people are people of honor. They are people of pride.
" No matter how angry you are, do not mention the other person's mother or their family,
unless you are asking for trouble. It is a common way to start a fight. Other touchy
subjects are national heritage and Serbian history.
On the other hand, Serbians do wear their emotions on sleave; if they love you, they will
On the other hand, Serbians do wear their emotions on sleave; if they love you, they will
fully accept you; if they don't, they will tell you. Upon my arrival in the United States, I
needed to learn something about American culture, and speaking freely was often construed
as being rude or blunt. Thank you for this review—a well-done video.
Alex ME
5 months ago
I'm Mexican and went to Serbia 4 times bc of my ex. This is SO TRUE! SPOT ON! also,
God I miss the food 😭😭 somebody send me homemade ajvar pleeeaaassseeee
Matej Lovrić
4 months ago
I am bosnian Croat and we have same mentality. Bosnian Croats have more in common
with Serbians then with Croats in other parts of Croatia. I feel better and more connected
with people in Belgrade than talking to people in Zagreb.
NenadSava
3 months ago
You're probably croatinized Serb. Serbs are native people of these lands while Croats, or better
say Krauts are more swabian kind of people and mentality, probably went down from the Alps.
Main difference is in our mentality and genes, while Serbian men have excess of male hormones,
swabian kind of people lack them. Swabian kind of people are like kids, or later in life maybe
even a bit "robotized", they like strict rules, laws and everything, while Serbs like more chaos
and rules exist to break them. Me as a Serb, find swabian people very boring in my opinion,
so maybe I’m biased.
Ronald
4 months ago
Serbia is one of the most beautiful countries, rich history, culture, and people are realy nice.
greetings from austria.
Ivan Bilicki
4 months ago
I am a Serb living in Toronto and I can confirm that this is accurate.
And I think that the Serbian way is way healthier.
tinglestingles
5 months ago (edited)
Assertiveness may be a more accurate description of their character trait, in my
experience. Directness and not 'beating around the bush'.
tinglestingles
5 months ago
I see and hear a sense of honour when I interact with my team.
Reminds me of Klingons in StarTrek with a great sense of
humour, hospitality, and honesty.
ukLz
5 months ago (edited)
Wow, this is amazing. If someone asked me to try to explain the same exact topic
in my own way, I'm almost sure I wouldn't manage to explain things in such a
clear and thorough manner.
Definitely want to see another episode of the "serbian mentality" series, I see a lot
Definitely want to see another episode of the "serbian mentality" series, I see a lot
of potential in this particular thing. You should do more of these for a better
understanding of serbian overall mentality. Cheers to you, Erik!
Shiljamannn
5 months ago
Thanks for clarifying Serbian mentality. The take is on point. Many people from the west,
when they come to a foreign, more conservative country, think they can act like they do
in their own country. That is especially characteristic for the British guys. For the most
part, you won't have any problems as a foreigner unless you are acting stupid and
looking for trouble.
Milos Stanojevic
3 months ago
I live in usa and Canada 20 years . And you said about the fake smile here , in north america.
I would say that relations here is --- costume ball And i learnde here that dogs are really best
friends to people . And cats . In Serbia is eeeasssy to hawe people for friends . REAL friends .
Here you cant talk with people about the weather . In Serbia about EVERYTHING .
Even at the street .
David Janjic
4 months ago
Yo , if you haven't already, you should read the short book by Archibald Reiss "Listen Serbs!".
4 months ago
Yo , if you haven't already, you should read the short book by Archibald Reiss "Listen Serbs!".
A Swiss who spent World War 1 with the Serbian people. In the book he wrote the virtues
AND vices surrounding Serbian culture. (You can probably skip the pre-WW2 politics).
Igor Svačić
3 months ago
Good insight. Im from Croatia, therefore had no problem getting insight since Im the same
mentality considering agressiveness in social relations.
Dalmatia, Istria, and perhaps eastern Slavonia are this way (alongside bosnian Croats). Or
Dalmatia, Istria, and perhaps eastern Slavonia are this way (alongside bosnian Croats). Or
tbh are "more" this way, while the rest of Croatia are also same, but to a less degree. Only
ones who really seem to not have this kind of mentality in Croatia are the ppl from far north,
near Slovenia.
Okay, since Im a Croat we have "our thing" on top of that, but I like Serbs, I think this is
Okay, since Im a Croat we have "our thing" on top of that, but I like Serbs, I think this is
much better to have than western type you mentioned, which boil inside.
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Ronald
4 months ago (edited)
Me as an austrian i have much more in common with croatian, serbs and slovenians as for
Ronald
4 months ago (edited)
Me as an austrian i have much more in common with croatian, serbs and slovenians as for
example, germans, french, italians, skandinavians. i feel as austrian much more at home in
serbia as for example in france or italy. you have to know that austria was heavily influenced
in the past from slavic language and culture, especially through the austrian.hungarian
monarchy, we always had croatians, bosnians and serbs living in the former territory of Austria.
So for me people form the balkan are more conntected with us then west europeans.
darko radulovic
5 months ago
Belgrade beat...you are spot on!!!! I am a Bosnian Serb living in Sydney Australia for 25 years.
Being subscribed to your channel
I follow your videos and of course and I loved them. The breakdown of Serbian culture, pride,
I follow your videos and of course and I loved them. The breakdown of Serbian culture, pride,
personalities, control aggressiveness, hospitality towards foreigners, description of bottom
line / pre-warning leading to possible conflict are
second to none!!!! In ten-eleven years living in Belgrade you assessed Serbian mentality
second to none!!!! In ten-eleven years living in Belgrade you assessed Serbian mentality
better than any other psychiatrist, psychologist, human culture experts together. You are an
asset to Serbian tourism!!! You can run your business form every spot on earth...and you have
chosen Serbia!! Thank you for that!!! ...I know win-win...but in my humble opinion you are
giving my country more than you are getting back!! ....Cheers!
dado b
5 months ago
I am Serb, living in Canada, to be honest, I had my doubts when I start watching this clip, I
don't have them at the end of it. Well said, very , very well said, all the best to you ...
boyan t
4 months ago
Love this bit: "... whereas Serbian people will express their aggressiveness... ... ...constantly!"
😂 it's that long pause that got me 😂😂. Stumbled across this clip as one does and blown
away, especially about the cultural differences. And as a Serbian livng in London it's pretty
hard to blow a gasket like someone from the Balkans without everyone in your vicinty
thinking you're insane 😄
Dragan Markovic
5 months ago
Honor more or less, but I feel pride in Serbia is very important, large portion of fights I
witnessed were about pride, like argument starts and no one is willing to back down, people
would rather get beaten than humiliated, especially if odds aren't even, like one guy won't back
down in front of 2-3 guys while in one on one situations when pride is at stake anyway usually
comes to deescalation, especially in smaller cities or villages.
Rachael Novak
3 months ago
I think the aggression is perhaps mistaken as directness or honesty. I’m part Serbian but born and
grew up in Australia. I have always been told I’m direct and honest. I don’t know any other way
to be. I think it’s in the genes. If I know something is rude I won’t say it but if you ask my opinion,
I think you want and answer so I say it. Then people tell me I’m funny.
Andrea Szasz
4 days ago (edited)
This is a very interesting video. As a Hungarian person I visited Serbia only for two weeks. It was
interesting to feel that something is totally similar but all together it is totally different. People
have this Eastern European stone face - like us (that you described pretty well: this is the surface
we show to unknown people), but at the same time I felt a vivid atmosphere in the air that I don't
see in Hungary. I really liked this Mediterranean flavoure.
Neuromancer
3 months ago (edited)
As a Serb, I can say that this is a romanticized view of our society. I like that you have this idea
of us because it gives me hope that there is a chance for this society to evolve, but then remember
what is the reality of our lives here and I conclude that you simply haven't understood us properly
yet.
Yes, you can see on our faces when we like or dislike something, but this kind of "aggressive-peaceful"
Yes, you can see on our faces when we like or dislike something, but this kind of "aggressive-peaceful"
behavior, as you describe it, becomes really tiresome after some time. There is no decency in it most
of the time, and I, who live here entire life, I find it barbaric. Conflict will de-escalate only if the weaker
one backs out of it. Not the one who is wrong, but the weaker one! There is a big difference. As the
country descends into poverty under this regime, this will become even more obvious, as was the case
in the '90s. You haven't experienced that, and I pray that you never do, but I see signs of that happening
already. The reason why you haven't experienced the worst of it yet is that your foreign behavior breaks
the pattern of aggression people are accustomed to here. That may be a bit of luck for you here. So the
best way to de-escalate conflict here is not to get into any problematic situation.
I would prefer to live in a society like Canada, where people are maybe even falsely smiling and are decent,
I would prefer to live in a society like Canada, where people are maybe even falsely smiling and are decent,
who give you a chance to correct your behavior by being nice. They give you that pause to reflect on your
behavior and correct it. I find that as a perfect signal, not the outburst of emotions.
In the end, if you are indecent or have no empathy, you will have a hard time everywhere in the world.
In the end, if you are indecent or have no empathy, you will have a hard time everywhere in the world.
Lana Dark
2 months ago (edited)
One old song from ex Yugoslavia (we all love that song it's called Pljuni i zapevaj moja Jugoslavijo/
Spit and start singing my Yugoslavia) and this is my( poor) translations sums us up pretty damn
well,this is part of the song:
.
''Who doesn't grow teeth here,
Eh, poor is his mother
Who doesn't learn how to howl
(scream/shout)
will never find a herd (pack) here
''
Eh, poor is his mother
Who doesn't learn how to howl
(scream/shout)
will never find a herd (pack) here
''
Drazen Jovanovic
5 months ago (edited)
Unfortunately, in the past 30 years, Serbia went through a lot (it is a very long list). That all took a
toll on people and they became much more aggressive. The problem is that aggressiveness usually
does not turn into good like in a case of our athletes, but it turns partially into a "time bomb
personality" that can "explode" in traffic, bank queue, or anywhere else. BTW in my opinion it is much
less likely to happen toward foreigners, more likely toward the fellow Serbs. With the economy
improvements, more job opportunities, and most importantly changing the mindest of who is in control
of my personal life and taking full responsibility for it, that "bad energy" will eventually evaporate,
but it will take some time.
Lola Who
3 months ago
They act the same as Spanish, Italian, French, Greek ppl. It is the Southern European mentality.
Comparing Canadian with Serbian mentality it is the same like comparing Norwegian and south
Italian mentality. I mean you compare the most closed societies with one of the most open ...
SUZIJ5
5 months ago
Wow, such a fascinating video and very interesting to hear a westerners point of view on Serbs
and Serbia. However, Serbs in Belgrade are quite different than Serbs in the remainder of Serbia
and because of that are not a fair representation of Serbs in general. Belgrade is it's own little
country within a country. Belgrade is a very cosmopolitan city where the people are much more
open minded, more educated, well travelled, even more westernized than in the rest of the
country, especially more so than those in the smaller cities. I would love to see more videos from
you like this one. I didn't realize that you have lived there for as long as you have.
Congratulations on reaching 10K subscribers and keep up the great work!