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Post by Dèsîŗĕ Yèarning on Feb 19, 2010 9:04:38 GMT -5
My favourite subject was Drama. In primary school my teacher was so impressed with a story that I wrote, she decided to make it into a play which I directed and chose the parts for, at the age of 9 I fell in love with this class. At secondary school I loved the freedom it gave us to express ourselves. The fact that we could be different characters. I made a few classmates cry with my dramatic performances LOL. I always got A* in that class for the acting part of it, Although I hated the writing part afterwards. If we didn't have Drama, it would have been English Lit. just because I found it so easy. Who studied Of mice and men? I always was chosen to read the parts. Although I wasn't into shakespeare at all..
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Post by SKORIC on Feb 21, 2010 10:38:54 GMT -5
"Study" periods
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Post by nilofer on Feb 22, 2010 5:41:05 GMT -5
In primary school, I liked almost all the subjects. But maths, physics and chemistry were my favourites. I was good at thinking mathmatically and solve problems very quickly through my own "formulars" (they weren't so much formulars as they were ways of thinking)...but I'd spend hooours writing my papers perfectly so that they looked visually appealing and very organised.
I did well in all subjects, really...got 11's (A's) and 13's (A+'s) in everything that I did. I got a higher average grade than what anyone had gotten in the school for like 9 years.
In high school, I started to detest maths and all the other scientific subjects, apart from chemistry - but I still did good in them. I grew fonder of the language subject more this time 'round. Danish (Swedish and Norwegian as well), which I didn't like, and English were a fixed part of the schedual but we could choose the 3rd language. Since I'd already taken French, and was really good at it, I continued with advanced French. And liked it. Along with English.
In the the end of the 1st year in high school we had to choose some of our own subjects for the 2nd and 3rd year. Normally, you choose two A-level subjects and one B-level subject. But I chose 3 A-level subjects (chemistry, English and advanced French) which meant I would be able to multiply my average grade, when I'd graduate, with 1,something. Anyway, I liked chemistry because of something as stupid as liking to do redox reductions ;D. That was my favourite bit but I also liked solving other chemical problems. I wasn't too fond of the experimental bit but I liked the journal-writing bit.
I liked English because it was very easy ;D. Same with French. When something comes specially easy to me, I automatically love it ;D. The only bit I struggled with, when it came to languages, was to learn the grammar in theory. I'm NOT good at remembering small details, like which grammatical components go together and which ones do not. I feel like I only need to know things as a whole, not the small details that compose the whole. It takes too much to remember the small things...not just in language, but in anything...
Finally, in uni, I chose to major in psychology and minor in Arabic and Middle Eastern studies. My parents had always wanted me to apply for med uni but medicine wasn't really my thing. On several occassions I'd found myself on the verge of vomitting in biology class. I didn't have a problem with biology as such...it was only when we had about female biology that I felt sick. Oh my God, the worst bit was when we had to watch a woman give birth on video...I was about to faint and had to leave class. Even when my midwife advised me to watch a birth on video, before giving birth myself, I was like, "oh hell no, no thanks! I'm fine with not knowing, I just need a lot of Epidural and no description of what else is happening! You just do your thing, Lady, I don't need to know about it". Funny enough, my mum wanted me to become a gynaechologist or a midwife. Yeah, that'd have never ever happened...EVER.
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Post by Dèsîŗĕ Yèarning on Feb 22, 2010 12:07:37 GMT -5
They made us watch a reproduction video when we were 9 years old. The whole start to finish with empasis on the creation and birth part I am still traumatised by that experience. I will never ever get over that I think. I went home, looked at my mum and said.... so I know how babies are made and how they come out. She just looked at me and said .. they showed everything!!! I thought they are just going to talk... 3 years later we learned how to put a condom onto a banana (olden days) about all the STDs etc.
4 years later my sister got to put a condom on a dildo along with the rest of the class... ppfffttt
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Post by nilofer on Feb 22, 2010 13:15:54 GMT -5
Hahaha! We actually didn't get sex ed in school until quite late...when we were in 6th grade or something. But I knew about reprodction at 8, I think. There was an old teacher who basically told us everything about it, and showed us books with very graphic pictures of naked men and women, couples having sex, genitals etc. Looking back, I think he was very inappropriate. He was quite vulgar when he explained stuff to us...
Our sex ed classes were unisexed but the girls also had seperate classes where a nurse came to talk to us about periods, sex, STDs etc. In the end, she'd make us put condoms on plastic penises, too...but luckily we never had to watch any videos.
I think sex ed classes, at least the ones I had, kinda sucked...a lot. My mum was way better at explaining things to me...because she didn't just tell me about the practical bits, but also the emotional bits, about the pros and cons, timing, partners etc. Which I think it's important to incooperate in sex ed...since sex isn't something mechanical and something that you "just do" with anyone (at least not in my opinion).
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Post by Dèsîŗĕ Yèarning on Feb 22, 2010 13:29:18 GMT -5
I think the way that my school just said, right everybody sit and watch the video, without a warm up, or little chat (unless i had tripped out n missed it!) was wierd. I mean I didn't really know what the vid was about, til the tall hairy man stood up, and his huge penis swang left n right as he just happened to be walking about naked. Then his also rather hairy partner with the amazon jungle like pubes came, which followed with some action... inc freezeframes and then graphics about what it looked like inside... a speed up version of the 9 months, eggs splitting, doubling, growing, baby formed, and camera shot to hospital.... and lots of goey nasty stuff... till a slimy looking alien thing squeezes out amid screams and heavy breathing... when it came out,, its head kind of popped as it was squashed on the way out. That was the rawest form of sex ed I have ever heard of in my life.... I wanted to puke. Man i was still playing out roller blading on the streets, and eating penny sweets, I was way to innocent for that stuff Lol i remember my friends blowing up the condoms like balloons and throwing them into traffic from top of the double decker buses lol. My mum n I didn't ever talk about sex, til one day she asked.... have u done it? n I was like yea? n she was like... ok ... with who? n I said Byeeee!!! n was outta there. We can talk about it nowadays but in the past I avoided it at all costs... I think Il talk to my daughter about it if I have one early on. especially with all the dangers around unprotected sex these days. One of the reasons I wouldnt want my kid to grow up in Turkey is because for some reason they load sex with guilt in this country. So dumb, unless your married its a no no.. pfffff in 2010 as well.... although we have the other side of society who just gives it out left right n centre..(sigh)
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Post by SKORIC on Feb 22, 2010 14:02:19 GMT -5
LOL!
We just had innocent comical cartoons in sex ed, with little cartoon characters with their red embarressed faces after having a wet dream or their first periods, and even that made us feel embarressed lawl..
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Post by nilofer on Feb 22, 2010 14:18:52 GMT -5
I mean I didn't really know what the vid was about, til the tall hairy man stood up, and his huge penis swang left n right as he just happened to be walking about naked. Then his also rather hairy partner with the amazon jungle like pubes came, which followed with some action... inc freezeframes and then graphics about what it looked like inside... a speed up version of the 9 months, eggs splitting, doubling, growing, baby formed, and camera shot to hospital.... and lots of goey nasty stuff... till a slimy looking alien thing squeezes out amid screams and heavy breathing... when it came out,, its head kind of popped as it was squashed on the way out. Hahahaha! Oh yeah, that reminds me...all the pictures we saw were also of people who were very hairy "down there". Maybe sex ed classes should also be about personal grooming . Hahaha, aw...I suppose it's hard for teachers to determine when the right time for sex ed is. I mean, while I was still at that age where guys and sex grossed me out, a lot of my classmates had had their nipples pierced and had already had several sex partners. lol, When we had that nurse, she left some boxes with pads and tampons for us girls to help ourselves with. But before any of us had taken anything, the guys had already barged into the classroom and stuffed tampons up their noses, lol. Yeah, it's not exactly comfortable having sex chats with your folks. But your mum never brought the conversation up again? I don't talk about sex at all with my mum now. But she's very eager to "make sure everything's alright". It kind of annoys me that she doesn't just let it be me and my husband's business. If there was anything to talk about, I'd talk about it with him, not her. And yeah, me, too. I'll talk with my son as well...one of my greatest fears is that my son(s) will turn out to be one of those animals who can't keep it in their pants. There's just too much filth to catch out there... I understand what you mean. I don't like it either when sex is made out to be something shameful and bad, which, I guess, happens in a lot of families and cultures. However, I would definitely advocate waiting with sex till marriage. I'd be disappointed if my kids had pre-marital sex but...I don't know, if they're adults, they have their own minds - maybe they won't feel the same about sex as I do. I'd just have to accept that...
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Post by Dèsîŗĕ Yèarning on Feb 25, 2010 17:25:03 GMT -5
I mean I didn't really know what the vid was about, til the tall hairy man stood up, and his huge penis swang left n right as he just happened to be walking about naked. Then his also rather hairy partner with the amazon jungle like pubes came, which followed with some action... inc freezeframes and then graphics about what it looked like inside... a speed up version of the 9 months, eggs splitting, doubling, growing, baby formed, and camera shot to hospital.... and lots of goey nasty stuff... till a slimy looking alien thing squeezes out amid screams and heavy breathing... when it came out,, its head kind of popped as it was squashed on the way out. Hahahaha! Oh yeah, that reminds me...all the pictures we saw were also of people who were very hairy "down there". Maybe sex ed classes should also be about personal grooming . Hahaha, aw...I suppose it's hard for teachers to determine when the right time for sex ed is. I mean, while I was still at that age where guys and sex grossed me out, a lot of my classmates had had their nipples pierced and had already had several sex partners. lol, When we had that nurse, she left some boxes with pads and tampons for us girls to help ourselves with. But before any of us had taken anything, the guys had already barged into the classroom and stuffed tampons up their noses, lol. Yeah, it's not exactly comfortable having sex chats with your folks. But your mum never brought the conversation up again? I don't talk about sex at all with my mum now. But she's very eager to "make sure everything's alright". It kind of annoys me that she doesn't just let it be me and my husband's business. If there was anything to talk about, I'd talk about it with him, not her. And yeah, me, too. I'll talk with my son as well...one of my greatest fears is that my son(s) will turn out to be one of those animals who can't keep it in their pants. There's just too much filth to catch out there... I understand what you mean. I don't like it either when sex is made out to be something shameful and bad, which, I guess, happens in a lot of families and cultures. However, I would definitely advocate waiting with sex till marriage. I'd be disappointed if my kids had pre-marital sex but...I don't know, if they're adults, they have their own minds - maybe they won't feel the same about sex as I do. I'd just have to accept that... All I can say are Europeans if we go by sex ed are blessed by the bear god. hairy as heck. We weren't that forward about sex in my day and age, considering I was in high school from 91-96 most of the girls discovered their sexuality aged around 15, although there were the one or two that the whole school knew about. We had an innocence mixed with weed LOLthe years after us seem to have gone totally crazy, in my sisters class when she was 14 there were 3 pregnant girls. (probably bcoz the govt gave council homes to single teenage girls with babies) My mum knows too well if I dont want to talk about something not even god can make me talk. These days we can talk but on a very select level, I just don't like talking to people about my sex life, only my partner and should know what goes on in that area. I am not very into virgin till married mentality as I have seen many marraiges break down due to sexual incompatibility, also curiosity. I'll probably tell my kids that they need to be emotionally responsible enough to cope with having a physical relationship, I would also want them to have some experience before they pledge the rest of their lives to one person. I wouldn't have married my husband if he was a virgin, what am I supposed to do teach him? and two virgins to me sounds like a lottery, can get lucky (rare) or keep trying and trying but never actually hitting the jackpot lol.
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Post by nilofer on Feb 28, 2010 5:01:58 GMT -5
the years after us seem to have gone totally crazy, in my sisters class when she was 14 there were 3 pregnant girls. (probably bcoz the govt gave council homes to single teenage girls with babies) I've never understood girls/women who bring babies into this world just to gain something. Like, they use their pregnancies and their children to get freedom from their families, to get their own place, money etc. With that said, I disagree just as much with women who use abortion as a birth-control method. These days, you can probably not bump into one single women who hasn't had at least one abortion n her short life span. It's really sad...if people don't want children, they should be hella careful, or close their legs, instead of waiting till a life is concieved, then get rid of it like it's garbage. But what can you do, most of us live in a society where the concern lies with those who make the idiotic mistakes, not those who're products of them. It kind of makes me sick. A lot. I think it's okay to talk about sex, if the talking includes both parts and if the talking can improve the sexlife. Unfortunately, a bad sexlife is very common for a lot of couples. Some spouses communicate very badly so their sexlife is obviously affected by this. In the media, you always hear about women being the neglected ones when it comes to sex. But from all the couples, and especially men, that I've talked to, in terms of sexual problems, I've learned that men are just as much neglected - if not more. A lot of women think that they don't really need to make an effort to give their men a good sexual experience...I don't know, I feel bad for men who have wives with that kind of attitude. Hmmm...just as many non-virgins, if not more, break up due to a rubbish sexlives, infidelity etc. Sexual experience doesn't really "secure" a marriage or relationship, IMO. What I think determines a great sexlife between two individuals is how comfortable each person is with their body, how open they are to sexual ideas and fantasies - also those that aren't their own - and how comfortable they are about talking about sex. I don't believe that someone who's got an aggressive sexual personality can only be with someone who's got such a personality, too. If the more tender person is open to new sexual things, then the aggressive sexual person could definitely still have his/her needs met with the tender person. Just because you might prefer a certain type of sex, doesn't mean that this is the only type of sex you'll stick to. So you'd rather that other women have taught him up for you? You know, almost like a piece of furniture; instead of assembling the furniture yourself, it's better to have it delievered ready-made? On a more serious note, I truly don't regard virgins as people that need training in sex. That makes sex so mechanical...that you need a certain training before you're good enough enter a marriage and deliever. So when would a person have had so much training that he or she would be good enough in bed? And when you've reached that point of being good enough, are you then done with improving? I don't regard sex that way at all. I see sex as something that is never stable...something that can always be better and/or different, even when you're 70 years old and have had sex millions and millions of times. Part of the excitement of having sex is exactly that things-can-always-get-better/different factor of it. If sex was always predictable, and something that never felt like a journey, I think it'd be very boring. Two virgins have a lot of exploring to do...that's all I'm going to say ;D. On a different note, I personally like the thought of having my husband all to myself - the though of NO women, besides me ;D, having had an impact on him. I'm the jealous type of person, I'd not want other women to have "taugh up" my husband...I don't want him to perform the tricks, that other women have taught him, on me, I don't wnat to be thinking, while being with him, "oh, did he do this to his other gwomen, too?". Hell no, thanks! I would hate the thought of other women having touched and seen my husband at his most intimate. These kind of things bother me so much, that I've never ever considered marrying someone who's had even one partner before me. It'd drive me nuts...all the thoughts of him in bed with others...I hate that... How do you know that it's rare? Are you just assuming that virgins are ignorant about sex, can't voice their fantasies, are too shy etc.? I don't think two virgins getting together is more of a lottery than two non-virgins getting together. You talked about sexual personalities...if you believe in that then you must believe that two non-virgins can also lack sexual compatibility - just as much as virgins can. A relationship is a relationship - the only difference between boyfriend and girlfriend and marriage is that marriage is a contracted relationship. But it is just as much a shame that an unmarried couple of 6 years break up as it is for a married couple of 6 years to break up. In both cases, it'd have still be 6 years wasted.
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