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Post by king on May 24, 2010 10:41:33 GMT -5
What do you think of interracial, interreligious, interethnic dating? Would you do any of it or no and why?
Interracial: Two people of different races (for example black and white) Interreligious: Two people of different faiths (for example christian and muslim) Interethnic: Two people of different ethnicities (for example serb and albanian)
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Post by Dèsîŗĕ Yèarning on May 24, 2010 11:30:27 GMT -5
1: I think its great, mixed race people are very beautiful. I don't even know why this would be a question.
Interreligious: Hmm It depends on the people involved, if either of them are fanatical in their beliefs then in the long term I doubt it will go anywhere. In the short term they can cure their curiosity and perhaps gain wisdom for their old age lol. If they are open minded people then it isn't an issue, I do think certain things need to be factored in here though:
If they have children what shall it be, or will the child choose? What will their families say, and how important is this for them? Will their seperate religions be respected by each other and each of the religious festivals be celebrated together.
Interethnic: This one is really hard IF the two countrys have a historical conflict. Such as Serb and Albanian, yet if they love one another they can overcome any obsticle. My Uncles ex wife was half Serb, half Croat.
My sister is married to a Portoguese guy who is 1/4 Black and is Catholic/Agnostic. My sister is Turkish (50% Cyprus 50% Turkey) and is Muslim.
They are very happy together Masallah, my sister cooked the pork roast at the xmas dinner last year. Bruno comes to our house for Bayram and has the meal. They have decided if they have a child, he/she will choose their own religion. The name of the child shall be one Portoguese name and one Turkish name. They have been together for 6 years and married for 3 of that. They have their up's n downs both being quite young 26 years old, but never due to their race, ethnicity of religion.
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Post by king on May 24, 2010 11:32:44 GMT -5
1: I think its great, mixed race people are very beautiful. I don't even know why this would be a question. Interreligious: Hmm It depends on the people involved, if either of them are fanatical in their beliefs then in the long term I doubt it will go anywhere. In the short term they can cure their curiosity and perhaps gain wisdom for their old age lol. If they are open minded people then it isn't an issue, I do think certain things need to be factored in here though: If they have children what shall it be, or will the child choose? What will their families say, and how important is this for them? Will their seperate religions be respected by each other and each of the religious festivals be celebrated together. Interethnic: This one is really hard IF the two countrys have a historical conflict. Such as Serb and Albanian, yet if they love one another they can overcome any obsticle. My Uncles ex wife was half Serb, half Croat. My sister is married to a Portoguese guy who is 1/4 Black and is Catholic/Agnostic. My sister is Turkish (50% Cyprus 50% Turkey) and is Muslim. They are very happy together Masallah, my sister cooked the pork roast at the xmas dinner last year. Bruno comes to our house for Bayram and has the meal. They have decided if they have a child, he/she will choose their own religion. The name of the child shall be one Portoguese name and one Turkish name. They have been together for 6 years and married for 3 of that. They have their up's n downs both being quite young 26 years old, but never due to their race, ethnicity of religion. nice
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Post by vanilo on May 24, 2010 12:44:21 GMT -5
Hmmm...it depends. I have a quite weird, perhaps intolerant view on this matter. I don't mind interracial/ethnic relationships as long as it's not Middle Eastern men, especially Kurdish ones, who engage in them with reknown promiscuous...races'/ethnicities' women. Sorry, but I can't stand promiscuous people, they make me physically ill. I'd hate to be touched by a man who's touched a woman, before me, who's slept with 20 different men. Yuck. Who knows what she's contracted, passed on to him, and he passes on to me. No thanks!!! . Could I be in a interracial relationship? Hmmm...yeah, if the guy had a similar mindset to my own, and we had a mutual understanding on things. And if there was a strong physical attraction between us, of course. I'm not physically attracted to certain ethnicities' men...so...I'd have to totaly exclude them, regardless of their mindset. I'm very neutral on this matter - when it comes to other people. I think it's totally fine. For myself? Nah. It's not because I'm afraid of the differences between me and, say, a Christian man, or that I have something against other religions - not at all . But in the Qur'an it clearly states that a Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man, and I take that seriously. I didn't always know that Muslim women can't marry non-Muslim men, but when I got to know about it, I started caring about a potential partner's faith. It was quite stupid, really...I just accepted it without questioning it, at first. But I see the logics in it now... Even if the guy is a Muslim...I think it'd have been hard to marry someone who is not Shia Muslim, like myself. I'm just...overall, a very stubborn, steadfast person...IF I ever compromise, I compromise very little. So...I always knew I should probably go for someone who's not too different from myself. In that way, my way would also be his way ;D.
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Post by king on May 24, 2010 13:14:58 GMT -5
Hmmm...it depends. I have a quite weird, perhaps intolerant view on this matter. I don't mind interracial/ethnic relationships as long as it's not Middle Eastern men, especially Kurdish ones, who engage in them with reknown promiscuous...races'/ethnicities' women. Sorry, but I can't stand promiscuous people, they make me physically ill. I'd hate to be touched by a man who's touched a woman, before me, who's slept with 20 different men. Yuck. Who knows what she's contracted, passed on to him, and he passes on to me. No thanks!!! . Could I be in a interracial relationship? Hmmm...yeah, if the guy had a similar mindset to my own, and we had a mutual understanding on things. And if there was a strong physical attraction between us, of course. I'm not physically attracted to certain ethnicities' men...so...I'd have to totaly exclude them, regardless of their mindset. I'm very neutral on this matter - when it comes to other people. I think it's totally fine. For myself? Nah. It's not because I'm afraid of the differences between me and, say, a Christian man, or that I have something against other religions - not at all . But in the Qur'an it clearly states that a Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man, and I take that seriously. I didn't always know that Muslim women can't marry non-Muslim men, but when I got to know about it, I started caring about a potential partner's faith. It was quite stupid, really...I just accepted it without questioning it, at first. But I see the logics in it now... Even if the guy is a Muslim...I think it'd have been hard to marry someone who is not Shia Muslim, like myself. I'm just...overall, a very stubborn, steadfast person...IF I ever compromise, I compromise very little. So...I always knew I should probably go for someone who's not too different from myself. In that way, my way would also be his way ;D. i know muslim women are not allowed to marry non-muslims, i liked a pakistan and a afghani woman... and they said they dont want me because im not a muslim and they cant be with a guy who eats pork... but it was only online...
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Post by todhrimencuri on May 24, 2010 13:18:01 GMT -5
No Slav and Im good.
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Post by Dèsîŗĕ Yèarning on May 24, 2010 13:35:16 GMT -5
I knew about the restriction for muslim women in regards to non muslims, but I guess I don't take it as seriously as I should. theres a lot of different religions in my family Orthodox serbian, and Russian, Catholic, Atheist, Musim alevi, Muslim Sunni, etc.... I think if God didn't mind us faling in love and allowed such strong chemistry then i don't think it would be a great sin to marry that person, rather than marry a muslim who you don't love.
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Post by Trazi Vise on May 24, 2010 13:40:35 GMT -5
Relationships are a lot or work even if you are from the same ethnicity, faith etc as the other person. So to me it doesn't matter what they are. I am open to anyone who is a decent person.
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Post by vanilo on May 24, 2010 14:24:48 GMT -5
King, Some Muslim women don't mind marrying non-Muslim men . It's very different from people to people. In Syria and Lebanon, where Muslims and Christians/Catholics live side by side, you actually see a lot of Muslim women marrying Christian/Catholic men, and that's totally acceptable in their families and societies. Desire, God is just, and He doesn't look at things as black and white as we do, fortunately. The Qur'an and Hadiths are guidelines but it doesn't mean that you're automatically this terrible sinner just because you do something that's outside the guideline. So I don't think a Muslim woman who marries a Muslim man is doomed, lol. There are so many more worse sins...murder, rape, oppression, corruption...
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Post by vanilo on May 24, 2010 14:26:47 GMT -5
But yeah, to me, it was important to follow this exact guideline about not marrying non-Muslim men... .
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Post by thracian08 on May 24, 2010 15:26:41 GMT -5
Also don't forget that Christian women also cannot mary Muslim men as well religiously speaking. B/c the men dominates the religious line.
With regard to different religions marrying one another: it depends on the couples agreement. With some, one religion dominates the kids. With others, the kid decides. But if both couples butt heads that they want their religion to be dominant, it won't work out. If one person allows the other to be dominant, it works better.
I am Muslim, and I wanted to marry a Turkish Muslim (but not a strict one) just like myself, and I did. That was my preference.
However, I have some Turkish friends who are Muslim, but their husbands are also Turkish, and Atheist, and they also get along too. I think that they're both tolerant of each other's beliefs and that's the key.
Difference ethnic groups; it's all good in my opinion. However, about things working out, it depends again.
All I can say is if you have a common ethnic background and religion and cultural beliefs, it makes your life much much easier. The less commonalities you have, the more difficult it gets b/c you are not able to understand it from a different perspective.
Culture also matters a lot too!! Even 2 people with the same religion may not be able to get along if they are culturally so different from one another.
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Post by Username on May 24, 2010 15:52:48 GMT -5
I think it's great too.. My mom even encourages me to find a black girl so she can have cute black baby grandkids haha
And yeah, I've noticed people of mixed ethnicities do tend to look better (take the best of both sides).
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Post by Nikola on May 25, 2010 5:35:39 GMT -5
I have no problems with people inter-racially marrying but, as I get older, I'm realizing that it's not for me.
Also, for some reason, I find Asian and black African babies ugly. I don't know why, maybe it's the inner racist in me, I can't help it, but they're just not cute.
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Post by Patrinos on May 25, 2010 6:01:36 GMT -5
I would marry only an Italian or Spanish. French at most. I wouldn't marry any balkanian(Serbs are excluded) and of course a turkish lady... and of course I wouldn't like to have kids named Mehmet of Mustafa... Marrying a Bulgarian, Albanian, Russian or Romanian ,for example, in Greece means that you are a 60 years old guy who never married and found the opportunity to have some last pleasant moments...if he still can...
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Post by hellboy87 on May 25, 2010 7:02:59 GMT -5
And yeah, I've noticed people of mixed ethnicities do tend to look better (take the best of both sides). That's bullsh*t to be honest. I'm tri-racial and I look like sh*t. This whole "oh mixed race people are the most beautiful...." thing is actually "mixed race people are more INTRESTING looking". When you say beautiful,it's usually mixed with Europeans.
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Post by Nikola on May 25, 2010 7:19:33 GMT -5
That's bullsh*t to be honest. I'm tri-racial and I look like sh*t. This whole "oh mixed race people are the most beautiful...." thing is actually "mixed race people are more INTRESTING looking". When you say beautiful,it's usually mixed with Europeans. I think Hollywood and the US in general have skewed peoples perceptions of the beauty of those of mixed race by only advertising the good looking ones. Your Halle Berry, Mariah Carey, etc. But what about all those who don't inherit the best from both parents, and instead inherit the worst? We never see them.
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Post by Pavel Chernev on May 25, 2010 8:31:28 GMT -5
Intermarriage not socially acceptable in Bulgaria - though Bulgar woman best looking in world, Pavel like chocolate flavor woman very much.
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Post by Dèsîŗĕ Yèarning on May 25, 2010 12:15:55 GMT -5
Hellboy u are ugly inside and outside. You are one of the exceptional mixed race peoples that took only the weaker uglier genes. I grew up in London almost everyone is mixed race there somehow, and you don't see many ugly mixed race people, usually the white english brits are uglier.
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Post by ivo on May 26, 2010 15:55:57 GMT -5
Personally I don't think I have an issue with any of the intermarriages listed above as long as the final product is raised as Bulgarians.
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Post by hellboy87 on May 27, 2010 0:24:17 GMT -5
Hellboy u are ugly inside and outside. You are one of the exceptional mixed race peoples that took only the weaker uglier genes. I grew up in London almost everyone is mixed race there somehow, and you don't see many ugly mixed race people, usually the white english brits are uglier. I'm ugly outside and inside but I also have "beauty" inside. Likewise for you,you silly Kemalist snob. I have a massive problem when you critic me as a person when you're no good or not much better anyway. And also when you do so on my looks.Get a nose job! AND GET A WAX! PUH-LEASE!!!! The sssstench!
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