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Post by Steven on Jun 8, 2010 1:22:58 GMT -5
This is something that's been perplexing me for a long time. Why do some women like c**ky a**holes? I know guys who act like total jack-asses, are crude and disrespectful yet they are still able to get beautiful women. Do you think it's because that men are expected to chase women so a guy with confidence is more appealing to them, even if he's a jerk? Is it because some women find the bad boys more exciting? Is it because these women lack a brain themselves?
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Post by hellboy87 on Jun 8, 2010 6:02:28 GMT -5
oh my god! I so know what you're talking about.
The women who love bad boyz thing.Pamela Anderson comes to mind.I think probably because they find them amusing and.......flattered?
But have you thought about this? That those women are probably morons? And that maybe they know those guys are sex maniacs and they want to use the guys up?
But most importantly,for me,I want to know WHY? Why are you asking this Stevie? Have you been bruised by some assh*le? Have they been getting the women you want most?
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Post by vanilo on Jun 8, 2010 10:53:11 GMT -5
I don't know why some women like men like that. But I also don't know why guys are so crazy about women who don't want them - women who obviously have a quite low standard in men. What will it say about you if such woman actually likes you? Maybe you should just be happy that a woman who's into assholes does not like you...
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Post by Dèsîŗĕ Yèarning on Jun 8, 2010 11:00:45 GMT -5
In my view, bad boys are generally just a phase for women. Almost every women has a crush on a bad boy, perhaps the excitement or adventure that could come from such a relationship is attractive for them.
On the other hand, opposites attract, theres something called chemistry that you just can't control. It doesn't usually last past the physical phase.
Having said all of this, women are complex creatures and there could be a huge number of reasons as to why they want to be with a bad boy.
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Post by captainalbania on Jun 8, 2010 11:17:50 GMT -5
They don't necessarily like "jackasses", but they like some of the qualities of the "jackass" and are willing to take the good with the bad for the time being, until the jackass ruins the relationship, which he inevitably will, because jackasses usually do not possess the qualities needed to manage women.
These women are not stupid, and this is not a phase. All women are attracted to certain behaviours, even desire, who claims to be over her "phase" still finds these alpha male behaviours attractive, but she's been burned before and logically knows not to get into relationships with unstable people, although if he displays enough attractive behaviour, she may just do it anyway because she won't be able to resist at some point.
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Post by Dèsîŗĕ Yèarning on Jun 8, 2010 11:26:24 GMT -5
They don't necessarily like "jackasses", but they like some of the qualities of the "jackass" and are willing to take the good with the bad for the time being, until the jackass ruins the relationship, which he inevitably will, because jackasses usually do not possess the qualities needed to manage women. These women are not stupid, and this is not a phase. All women are attracted to certain behaviours, even desire, who claims to be over her "phase" still finds these alpha male behaviours attractive, but she's been burned before and logically knows not to get into relationships with unstable people, although if he displays enough attractive behaviour, she may just do it anyway because she won't be able to resist at some point. Pardon me? I claim to be over my phase? I don't remember typing that. Please can the forumers refrain from making statements such as example above. Anyhow, it is true that women are attracted to masculine types, they are sexier in my opinion compared to the nerdy new age sensitive guys. However masculine male doesn't equal a 'bad boy'. A bad boy in my opinion would a guy that won't commit, a guy that plays around, a guy that uses illegal substances to the excess, or treats women like trash.
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Post by restless1gr on Jun 8, 2010 12:35:05 GMT -5
This is something that's been perplexing me for a long time. Why do some women like c**ky a**holes? I know guys who act like total jack-asses, are crude and disrespectful yet they are still able to get beautiful women. Do you think it's because that men are expected to chase women so a guy with confidence is more appealing to them, even if he's a jerk? Is it because some women find the bad boys more exciting? Is it because these women lack a brain themselves? women don't like jackasses... Jackasses know how to attract women and manipulate them... And that's why they are called jackasses. Just like the female bitches... and it's always too late, when ou find out that your guy is a jackass and your girl is a bitch...
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Post by Steven on Jun 8, 2010 15:11:49 GMT -5
LOL, I'm married. I'm not saying all women are like this, just some. My wife's exhusband was a jackass, was lazy, abusive, used illegal substances. It took her a long time to get rid of him, she kept accepting him back.
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Post by Caslav Klonimirovic on Jun 9, 2010 1:37:57 GMT -5
It's definitely true that women go for dickheads. The majority of guys will look at a relationship a girl is having with those kind of guys and go what the fuck is she thinking it's so obvious it's not going to work. And then when the relationship ends with the alpha male the woman gets all angry and becomes a bitter man hater when in reality she should only blame herself for something that was so obvious to the rest of the world. Next it just rubs off on the rest of her supportive girlfriends and they all just become more insecure.
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Post by todhrimencuri on Jun 9, 2010 3:07:53 GMT -5
These girls go for men who they see initially in an entirely different way than when they get out of it. These men are usually lively and energetic, have strong and aggressive personalities and tend to be very independent. Initially these are fun for the girls and they enjoy it but eventually they run into the bad sides: instability. These people are also more likely to wander off (cheat) or lose interest and become a-holes. Their personalities are domineering and erratic... so the girl is eventually hurt and swears off on such types... until the next one gets her fun meter going again, inwhich case she falls for the same trap.
The solution, I think, is that these women should just remove the emotional aspect of the relationship (that develops in the aftermath of things going sexual or they becoming socially intimate) and focus on the enjoyable fun parts about it... when its over, move on to the next ride... and walla, he is no longer a jackass but a fling.
This is pretty much what guys do anyway...
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Post by Novi Pazar on Jun 9, 2010 3:43:04 GMT -5
Well, you know what guys, if men do show interest in settling down and are also interested in having a family then girls seem to be more attracted in them......believe me
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Post by Nikola on Jun 9, 2010 7:13:45 GMT -5
Well, you know what guys, if men do show interest in settling down and are also interested in having a family then girls seem to be more attracted in them......believe me It depends on if that's what the girl wants too. I went on a date with a Serbian girl last week, and despite her (relatively) advancing age, she was still in party mode and saw me as too mature/boring with my house mortgage and stuff. One day she will wake up...
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Post by Trazi Vise on Jun 9, 2010 11:23:38 GMT -5
It depends, sometimes men pretend to be something else in front of you, until you realise what they are really like. Now, I see the crap before anyone gets hurt. It's about respect. If a man can't respect me or act maturely around me, I will give him the flick and he will wonder (and in one case still call me years later) trying to get back to me and wonder what he did. Well if he was just a normal person who had respect I would have given him more of a chance.
At the end of the day, it's not always our fault that we attract these djubre; we just come across jerks. The best way to deal with it is to see the signs early and run...just like Forrest Gump did, run as fast as you can. On the other hand, there are women who really must be brainless to put up with s**t or are so emotionally immature to always want to be the victim for men's crap. In this case it's their fault.
About the marriage thing lol...I don't think so. I was proposed to pretty much after the third date with an older balkan man...let's just say it didn't make him more attractive lol...Most women are stupid. Marriage is one long ride of going to hell and back, something that takes a lot of work.
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Post by Dèsîŗĕ Yèarning on Jun 9, 2010 14:14:13 GMT -5
My husband is what most girls call a real alpha male type. He is very dominant, older than me by 6 years, and spent his youth being a player, drinking, gambling, and racing his sports car around the city. I was the type of girl who always had a bf, and 3 in my backpocket, just in case I got bored of the one im with, clubbing, drinking, smoking, partying for days We make a perfect couple. touch wood. balance is the most important thing, both personalities have to be very strong, yet able to compromise for the person they love.
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Post by mystery on Jun 9, 2010 15:47:54 GMT -5
cause it's something they don't have..
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Post by gavrilo on Jun 9, 2010 16:54:37 GMT -5
There is something destructive inside of every woman.
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Post by Novi Pazar on Jun 10, 2010 3:27:12 GMT -5
"It depends on if that's what the girl wants too. I went on a date with a Serbian girl last week, and despite her (relatively) advancing age, she was still in party mode and saw me as too mature/boring with my house mortgage and stuff. One day she will wake up..."
Nikola, nothing is guaranteed, but there is small% of women even in their 30s, 40s who are still mentally in their teens, but the majority of them do want a guy who is stable. Remember, women have a biological clock, they want children before it becomes too late. Listen, a single friend of mine told me a couple of years ago that its easier to pick up women over the age of 25 than the ones between 18 to 21.
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Post by Novi Pazar on Jun 10, 2010 3:40:24 GMT -5
Just another thing also Nikola, its the most hardest to pick up women from night clubs, why?, because women have the hardest shield, they think all the men there just want a quicky (some truth to that to be honest with you). The best way to pick up serbian/montenegrin or Fyromian women is to get involved in the community like traditional dances, traditional concerts, church or even help the old folks prepare the food because the old people will advise their grand-daughters or daughters about you. Do you wonder why some butt ugly men in our communities (Serbian/Montenegrin or Fyromian) get very attractive women?, because the butt ugly guys parents knew the attractive girls parents and they hooked their children up....this is the most common form of how men and women from our communities hook up.
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Post by Novi Pazar on Jun 10, 2010 3:46:37 GMT -5
"My husband is what most girls call a real alpha male type. He is very dominant, older than me by 6 years" Desire, you look up to him more because his 6 years older than you, you realise also that with this age difference you feel safe around him, l know desire, many women l dated in the past used to tell me they feel comfortable and SAFE around me, the domineering character of him makes you feel he'll protect you
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Post by vanilo on Jun 10, 2010 4:14:51 GMT -5
There is something destructive inside of every woman. What does that mean? Anyway, I've never gone for a guy because I saw him as a bad boy (not to say that a couple of my former boyfriends didn't turn out to be bad boys - but I let them go when I saw that side of them. It's a really, really, really huge turn-off for me). I have always liked nerds, sort of geeky guys. You know, those guys who have one geeky scientific thing that they're really passionate and intelligent about. I love that they put their passion and intelligence into science and not "playing the field". I like a guy who's hard to get and selective about women, rather than being some kind of an animal who humps anything with a vagina. I know plenty of guys who sleep with women they are not even attracted to one bit. They just slept with them for the sake of being able to, and to say that they've done so (don't know why anyone would brag about that though). I don't like guys with no standard. What would that make me, if I was with someone like that? Someone who just sees me as yet another piece of ass who'll be gone and forgotten about in a week... Plus I've experienced that the "geeky" guys have human qualities that balance mine out very well. A "bad boy" definitely has not. I really can't think of anything a "bad boy" has, that I want.
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