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Im off.
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Post by manijak on Jan 13, 2010 22:59:58 GMT -5
well no word from dario since the 28th when he left.
he is rather having a great time or dead.
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Post by manijak on Jan 13, 2010 22:26:06 GMT -5
I've always been very principled and I think that makes the idea of death easier.
Basically, whether its with family, friends, or co-workers..I've had situations and circumstances that I would never put up with or would not want to be involved in. So I'm always making "stands" on situations and I know how I've felt during these situations..I've felt like "I'd rather die then be involved in this situation" etc.
For example, independence and not relying on others is really really important to me. I would rather die then have anybody have to take care of me.
It's an easy decision for me.
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Post by manijak on Jan 13, 2010 22:19:42 GMT -5
no no no.Thats what happens to people when they have children^^^ Children bring turned them into that. Why want kids? Dont you want to have fun? I've worked with young kids through coaching soccer...kids are not the problem. They don't make you into anything that you already aren't...but yes, they can make a person worse who is already screwed up in the head. Stress does that. Kids can be a hand-ful, especially early in life, but nothing that is easy is ever that worth it. In the end, its how you feel about it. If you are doing it for the right reasons. I'm an independent kinda guy, and I'm not miserable being single, so whenever you make a decision when you are ok with where you are...you can be pretty sure you made the right one. I'm not saying NOW but I don't see kids ruining my fun lol
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Post by manijak on Jan 13, 2010 16:29:56 GMT -5
Not at all. I'd be more worried the pain it caused to family and people that cared for me.
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Post by manijak on Jan 13, 2010 15:47:03 GMT -5
Zvone..thumbs up
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Post by manijak on Jan 13, 2010 15:45:58 GMT -5
Just think I'd be a good dad. When I look around at the trash who have kids, it seems weird not to. Yesterday I was on the bus and this fat bitch mom starts screaming at her 2-3yr old "get your f'ing boots on", "you don't want it..then you can freeze to f'in death....i really don't care anymore." I wanted to punch her out lol I hate parents that take out their issues on innocent little kids.
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Post by manijak on Jan 13, 2010 15:42:51 GMT -5
Is it not logical though since most guys fit in this category (probably 80% of guys) that most of women experiences are with dicks in that range..therefore, most of their good experiences will be there too. i mean sex rarley feels bad, ever. But since they don't hook up with many 8inches, since there isn't many, one bad experience and they don't rate it well. Since they will have many instances with 6=6.5....they will see that as the ideal.
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Post by manijak on Jan 12, 2010 11:42:10 GMT -5
The more older I get (25 now), the more I definetley feel like having some kids.
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Post by manijak on Jan 11, 2010 22:37:20 GMT -5
calling me a fag and saying i have a mental illness is really "taking on the world with love" lol
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Post by manijak on Jan 11, 2010 15:24:58 GMT -5
In terms of adoption, you know what's hilarious? What's ironic is that people who want to adopt go through major screening: police checks, home study's, finances need to be sufficient, you need a steady job, you need references from family and others..the case workers get personal and want to know every detail of your life..or you don't get the adoption. So we are judging THESE people? People who have been cleared to be of good character and in great position to care for children? Instead we should be judging the idiots who have irresponsible sex and bring children in this world. No jobs. no finances. criminal records. a person that wouldn't be able to get one reference for their good character if they were to try to adopt. But no, let's keep judging people who actually pass the real tests of what a good home would be. If your only standard is one needs to have a penis and another vagina..that's pretty weak. Some of the best kids i know have been raised by just women.
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Post by manijak on Jan 11, 2010 13:13:32 GMT -5
lmao
too bad jesus didn't live in the technology-webcam age..i'm sure we would have some dirt on him.
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Post by manijak on Jan 11, 2010 12:44:46 GMT -5
The most important thing to note imo is that we have become a "confession" society. Sexuality itself is very much a social construct. Let me explain.
It started with religion, and people confessing their sins. Religion, especially christianity, believe that to move forward we must man up and confess to sins. But it was when science came along, and especially psychoanalysis, this idea about "sexual liberation" came about. Meaning a belief that to be totally sexually free, you had to confess to all your sexual urges and feelings. You had to confess to homosexual feelings (like i did) You had to confess to your sex acts.(like arsenije just did)In the same way, Psychiatry and psychology basically believe that to be less stressed we have to get the negative thoughts out of our mind and change the way we think..so again, its all about confessing what's in our mind. So once people started confessing everything, all the perversions and immoralities came out, and then science wanted to prove what's normal and what's not.
So, sexuality itself, is very much a social construct because when it became public and in the face of society, we had to start analyzing it based on how each culture felt about it. People have had gay sex from the beginning of time, but then it was just something you did, it was not an orientation. Just like people have always cheated, had sex with children, animals, incest, perversions and immoral behavior like sleeping with your brothers wife, sleeping with your gf's mom...but its something people never discussed.
And back then in many societies it was normal to not discuss it at all. It was a different society...where sex was not seen as a sin but as an art. And to not spoil it, and to make it more special, it was always meant to be private.
We are at a place in today's society that if we don't confess, we don't feel accepted. That is why arsenije felt he needed to bring out his personal sexual experience and get feedback. He wants to feel normal in a society that is so much about judging what's normal. He got good feedback from skoric..and now he feels more better about how he is living his life.
You have to be a very very strong person in today's society to just be ok with what you do because we have constructed this weird and unfair judgment on sexuality. I have great respect for those people that just refuse to discuss sex and just live what they believe. It's hard to do today.
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Post by manijak on Jan 11, 2010 12:24:33 GMT -5
I say do not call it marriage (since historically it was a union between a man and a woman centered around traditional reproductive family unit as described here en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage#History ) but civil union instead with same legal rights and call it a day. I agree. In this way you separate the traditional/religious idea of a legal union and a secular state's idea of a legal union. I think both kinds of union need to be an option for people in secular countries since there's so much diversity in them. However, the one and only thing I don't think homosexuals should have the exact same rights and privileges as heterosexual couples in is when it comes to children. I believe that when you choose to be with someone of your own gender you basically also choose to not have children. I don't think it's anyone's resposibility at all to make sure homosexuals become parents - whether it's through adoption or state-paid fertilization treatments. If homosexuals want children they are on their own; they can pay for their own treatments. Furthermore, I think a child is entitled to have a mother and a father...a man and a woman can each give the child something different, and a child has the right to be given what a mother and a father can offer. It's just not fair that a child should get "2nd best" by missing out on a mother or a father. Sure, you can get an "uncle" or an "aunt" to function as a"substitute father/mother", but you can argue how much such a "substitute parent" matters when 1) he/she is not around every day 2) the child doesn't actually know this person as mommy or daddy. I'm not saying that homosexuals can't be good parents, because I definitely think that they can be - I'm just saying that homosexuals come 2nd to good heterosexual parents. There're so many heterosexual couples out there who're dying to have a child, and who would make amaaazing parents. It's not fair that heterosexuals who can genuinely not have children should sacrifice their natural desire to have a family for the sake of people who are healthy enough to have children, but have made a choice to be with someones that don't have the right "equipment" to make a family with. By the way, I believe most people are, directly or indirectly, raised with certain sexual morals. It's important to keep in mind that not everyone who engages in homosexual...activities are actually gay or even bisexuals. Truth of the matter is that we live in a society where I) it's become a trend among many high-profile "special" people (usually quite flamboyant people such as celebrities) to think it's wrong/sexist, or whatever, to divide the human race into sub-groups such as gender. They rebel towards the idea that there should be a purpose or difference between being born with a penis, a vagina, more testosterone, more oestrogen, with a different body, with a different brain etc. You can say that there's no such thing as homosexuality in these kind of peoples' world because they simply believe that they fall for PEOPLE rather than a gender II) experimenting with your sexuality is very much praised and even encouraged. Experimenting with sex is labelled as a way to "gain experience", to "get to know yourself better", to "be better in bed" etc. Because people feel no inhibitions, sexually, they experiment with homo-/bisexuality even though they don't naturally swing that way. They just "try it out" for the sake of...trying it out! I'm tempted to say that homosexual parents would be more likely to raise their children with ^those kind of loose sexual morals than heterosexual parents would be. But I don't necessarily actually believe that. Because I've seen a few examples of homosexual parents having way better morals than heterosexual parents. I've seen homosexual parents being way more strict and protective of their children than straight parents are. For instance, I know this guy from uni who has two fathers (if you can say that), and they're really strict on him (yes, even though he's a 22 year old MAN); they constantly lecture him about sex, women etc. They don't tolerate promiscuity in their house, and they don't tolerate that their son "play" women, use them, mistreat them, disrespect them etc. I can't even count how many guys I know who have straight fathers who almost encourage their sons to use women, to screw any female thing that moves - and are even extremely proud that their sons do these disgusting things! It's apalling... . But yeah...my point is that what you do sexually depends on so many other things than who your parents sleep with. I really think that it's mostly a moral issue. I don't believe that parents can wipe their morals off on their children...when ready for it, kids will find their own ways. But I believe that parents work as guides and role-models that influence their children greatly. If you do your job right as a guide/role-model/parent your child will understand and be proud of the example you're setting, and will see the point in embracing some of your morals for themselves. In that way, I do believe that you can guide your kids away, or towards, experimenting with homo-/bisexuality. Your a nice poster but that's a lot of going around in circles. Let me say what you really wanted to say and it won't take 5 paragraphs. "I see no reason why gays specifically would not make great parents, it depends on the individual, but since i'm religious, i can't let it happen." It's a really shitty reason. It basically says, "this prejudice makes no sense..but i have to do because i'm religious".
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Post by manijak on Jan 11, 2010 12:08:41 GMT -5
Because he thinks if you can make the "act" seem disgusting, then the people who do the act are the same. Yet, that's beside the point.
That's why he has to mention his PERSONAL sexual experience on a forum, and make it descriptive, because it will horny you up and make you think..."oh yeah..that is the way it should be."
Sad tactic.
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Post by manijak on Jan 11, 2010 12:01:43 GMT -5
It's interesting. The more time I've had to live with the fact that I'm gay, the less other peoples opinion on the matter mean. A lot of ignorant things have been posted but I honestly have no interest to debate with that crowd. Keep on with that view, it doesn't bother me.
The thing that keeps me happy is that my adopted country allows gay marriage and that the majority of people here have gay friends, are for gay rights, gay marriage, and equality in every sense of the word. That we can joke about it, that people can be comfortable with it..that people have the attitude of live and let live.
Honestly, when it comes to important questions in my life, I designate to societies and people that I view as better. I look to Canada, Switzerland, Sweden, not to Bosnia, Serbia, North Korea and Botswana. Meaning, I would never take advice seriously from most balkan people on many matters. We are psychology f'ed up people, ignorant, people with many complexes, biases, traditional, village like attitude and approach. It's what we were brought up in but it doesn't have to define who we are.
This is my biggest issue with Balkan nations. We have so much to be happy about. Our language, our foods, our music, our traditions, our way of humor, the way of life...but we choose ignorance and hate too...its like we think progress, education, and personal freedoms get in the way of what we are.
Until we change that attitude, we will be the joke for the rest of the world. Just like many Arab nations are do to their extreme religious leanings which make up their society.
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Post by manijak on Jan 2, 2010 13:50:08 GMT -5
you know what's the worst?
You are talking to someone you really like (like the ideal person) and then you say something really stupid that offends them.
It's painful. lol
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Post by manijak on Dec 30, 2009 10:09:12 GMT -5
"Ne sam, Safete"
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Post by manijak on Dec 29, 2009 10:15:32 GMT -5
Wow. That's the first thing that comes to mind after watching this 7 episode dvd series on our war-time General, Sefer Halilovic. It's a long watch, with the first couple episodes slightly slow, but it picks up and is one of the best things I've watched. It's something any Bosniak should see, and I think even others would appreciate as the main theme is the aggression on BIH.
You realize that if this man had his way, RS would probably not exist today, and the causalities would have been far less. You also get to see that Alija was a total moron, very naive, a total p**y, yet he gets called a hero. When this man should be the hero.
I mean I knew a bit about this man before, and I appreciated him, but after watching this, he is my hero and idol. The man is brave, intelligent, correct and a nice guy. If people even strive to be half of this guy, the world would be a better place.
When I go to visit BIH, I'll be buying this DVD and his book. For any Bosniak, if you already don't have it, I'd suggest to buy it instead of ripping it as this guy deserves the money. Even though its available on youtube...still buy it.
Opening part:
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Im off.
Dec 28, 2009 21:05:42 GMT -5
Post by manijak on Dec 28, 2009 21:05:42 GMT -5
Have fun, Dario.
My trip to the home-land is exactly in a month.
I'm flying into Budapest. I'll spend one nite there, and then next day, train straight to Sarajevo. I'll mainly stay in Sarajevo/Mostar region. Then I'll give myself some time to head back towards Budapest for the flight home..maybe 10 days..and that way I'll see a bit more of Bosna and a bit of Srbija.
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Post by manijak on Dec 22, 2009 20:43:42 GMT -5
Mind numbing? That doesn't sound good... i thought that too..until skoric actually showed me. good stuff.
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